Day 342 - Less complication

I have noticed change coming through within me, when it comes to having resistance to do something because I have set my mind on doing something else.

For instance the other day there was the need to organise our day and to decide when a specific task was ging to be perfomed by me, such as wet cleaning. Here I immediately responded saying that I would do it 'later' because now I have more urgent things to do such as studying. I said 'I study best in the morning' (and therefore everything else has to wait).

Yet my partner responded, 'Just do it now then it is done and you can still study in the afternoon. It only takes 20 minutes.' Here I normally would put up a fight and how dare someone else 'command my day'. Yet, the energy that I saw coming up within me - I saw that it was not going to be worth it so I decided to just 'pass' and I said: well, yeah ok I can do it now as well. And in that moment I let go of my idea-fix that 'I must study now and if I do not study then I lose out'.

What comes to mind in an interview with Joe Kou that I have listened a few times to - where he and Sunette talk about a moment where she said to him to 'drop it' when he was in a recation and arguing, and in that moment he was able to 'drop it' and let go by breathing through the emotions that were coming up in him. I would say it is an interesting interview to listen to as it really takes the listener by the hand in how to 'move out of a reaction' and 'what it will be like'.

In my example it was similar and I noticed a lightness within me when realising there is a certain ease within making such a decison, I would say that it requires a level of being comfortable with oneself to be able to 'drop such a pattern' because one will then choose for 'less complication' over creating stress and drama.

Here is some additional forgiveness:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to perceive in a moment that what another is suggesting is somehow 'against me' and 'against my best interests'.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to demonise the other person in my mind - in fear of losing that which I had projected to do with my time.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that what I had projected to do with my time 'will be taken away from me' and I will lose out against the other person.

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to compete with the other person where I think that I must try to 'maximise my profit' and 'secure my advantage'.

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myelf to be greedy and within that become paranoid in my relationship with others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to stand as self-obsession in the center - instead of placing what is best for all in the center and finding what works best for both through communication and working together.

I commit myself to live the words 'relaxedness' and 'simplicity' when it comes to organising myself and prioritisig my tasks.

I commit myself to creating a foundation of effective decisionmaking when it comes to practical organisation and taking into consideration others as myself one and equal.

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